This one is deeply personal. I grew up desiring marriage. I longed to settle down, raise children,
and build a home alongside a godly husband. That desire remains in my heart, but it no longer
defines my path. Why? Because I surrendered it fully into the hands of the One who knows the
beginning from the end.
Now at thirty, without a husband or children of my own, I can say with full confidence: the Lord
has not withheld good from me. Instead, He has positioned me to be a blessing in ways I never
imagined. He’s given me the joy of nurturing and mentoring children not biologically my own, but
deeply loved through my hands and heart. Through my nieces, nephews, students, and young
girls I get to walk with in church and community, I’ve seen that spiritual motherhood is just as
real, just as holy.
I’ve learned that calling is not postponed because dreams are delayed. We are not waiting
for purpose; we are walking in it. The Great Commission didn’t come with conditions. It did not
say, “Go into all the world… after you’re married.” No, it says, “Go.” Period.
Living sent means living obedient. It means showing up even when life doesn’t look like what
you planned. It means believing that God can use your singleness to build others, disciple
nations, and glorify His name. And when I look back, I am grateful I didn’t rush into something
just to satisfy longing. The Lord used this time to shape me to sharpen discernment, deepen
dependence, and cultivate devotion.
I encourage you: stop waiting for the next chapter to say yes to the one you’re in. Don’t waste
your singleness. Let it sing with purpose.
“Commit your way to the LORD; trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.”
Psalm 37:5
“The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.” Psalm 37:23
Wonsehlea Teah
