God never created us to live in isolation. Even in seasons of solitude, He calls us to community.
But not just any community, Godly, purposeful, and sharpening relationships that draw us closer
to Him.
I’ve experienced both the beauty and the pain of relationships. I’ve experienced both life-giving
friendships and others that left me feeling drained or discouraged. What I’ve learned is this:
proximity doesn’t equal intimacy, and availability doesn’t equal assignment. Just because
someone is near doesn’t mean they are meant to walk with you in this season.
When it comes to friendships, church communities, and even dating, wisdom is the key. It’s okay
to be intentional. It’s okay to pause. It’s okay to ask the Lord for discernment before diving into
something emotionally deep. I had to learn that not everyone has the privilege of walking with
you in every part of your journey, and that’s okay.
For those navigating dating, let me be honest: guard your heart not out of fear, but out of
reverence for what God is building in you. You are worth waiting for. Don’t compromise the
foundation of your faith for fleeting attention or emotional highs. I have had to walk away from
what seemed “good” to preserve what is God. And though that was painful at times, peace
always followed obedience.
Community is a gift, but it must be stewarded. Surround yourself with those who challenge your
walk, encourage your calling, and speak life over your identity.
“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs
27:17
“Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”
Hebrews 10:24
Wonsehlea Teah
